The Hypocrisy of Being Selfless While Neglecting Yourself
Being selfless is wonderful. You can help another at any time, not thinking of yourself. But what happens when you continually do this and end up harming yourself in the process? You’re able to give less and less and you end up resenting the very people you're helping, and are prone to believing they owe you something. The act of giving should never be about getting. The problem lies in your lack of self care. Self neglect is harmful to those around you because you aren’t presenting your best version to the world, and are more apt to act irrationally, emotionally, or become sick or depressed. How can you help the world as much as you truly can in that state? You really can’t… I believe in our natural state, uninfluenced by the dog eat dog way of life that is the social norm of our time, we all have a natural inclination to care about the well being of all people, but we really need to include ourselves in that group! You can’t pour from an empty cup. You can’t give if you have nothing to give and no energy to give it. Care for yourself and love yourself as you would care for your own child. You need it. The world deserves it! Stop neglecting yourself. Take care of your mind, body and soul. Exercise, learn and create, and be consistent. That is the biggest and most important thing you can do for the world, because you will be able to be your best version and offer the most to the world. The people most people see as egotistical really have a self view that rotates between egoism and self hate. To resolve that variance is done through self care. Those that are judging others who are recovering from this viewpoint are likely suffering the same imbalanced view and projecting. One must both love themselves and be humble. The world is not in duality but in multitudes. The view that to let go of ego is to be awakened is a step in your awakening. When you go deeper you realize that you and everything else are all one, and all deserve love and care. Someone with this balanced viewpoint who takes care of themselves, is proud of their milestones and accomplishments, is likely to be judged as egotistical by those who haven't expanded their perception yet, but they also understand the people holding that viewpoint, because they have likely been there before. What’s best for us all is for us all to be our best and do our best. All intelligent beings in existence know this. But everyone is at a different point in the development of their perception, so have compassion for those who judge you, and try not to judge others, because people are multifaceted, and often times judgment comes from a lack of understanding. Self love is really love for all when it’s accompanied by love for all. Without one kind of love or the other, both are lacking and neither is all it should be. Infinite Love, -Serendellion
